Thursday, December 16, 2010
Miracle of Healing
But I have known for a year that I would need to have this MRI right now - I see this doctor once a year and she wanted the pictures before my upcoming annual appointment. Little did I know how much the anxiety of this test was roiling under the surface, even though I wasn't consciously aware of it! Last week, it suddenly dawned on me, how much anxiety was right there all year that I had not acknowledged - it seemed so obvious all of the sudden and explained some of my bad habits this year (like eating too much).
I am not sure why this kind of denial was so important to me. Maybe it's because I fear that thinking about a recurrence is to doubt my faith. Maybe I just don't want to give cancer more of my thoughts and energy than it has already consumed. Maybe it's just a survival tactic because I can't function as well if I am constantly living in fear. Maybe it helps me focus on things that I can do and that I can control.
But the irony is of course, that the more I deny anxiety and fear, the more control it exercises over my actions and my life. I am wondering today about how to live out some of the benefits I need without the unhealthy, unacknowledged anxieties underneath. How do I live in the tension of consciously dealing with the fear and anxiety without giving it too much attention and energy?
This is still a challenge for me as I continue to progress to the significant 5-year survivor mark. This month marks 3 years since my initial surgery. I am overjoyed to say that the MRI results came back normal!
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Celebrating the Moment
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Really Big God-Sighting
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Monday, October 18, 2010
Surviving Puberty after Cancer
Friday, September 24, 2010
Sweet 16
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Answered Prayer or All You Need is Love
A few minutes later, I was busy putting on my makeup. The clasp on my compact is broken, so I have a rubber band holding it together. I took off the rubber band and threw it on the towel I had lining the counter while I quickly proceeded with my morning transformation. When I was done, I looked down to pick up the rubber band and was stunned at what I saw. The rubber band fell in the shape of a perfect heart. Not a lopsided heart, not a broken heart, not an imagined heart - one that if you turn your head a certain way and squint your eyes, it might look like a heart - but a perfect heart with a small circle for the indent at the top.
I stared at it for a moment and began to realize it was the answer to my prayer! All this person needs is LOVE. When I love them and focus on that, all other things will work out in time. A sense of peace flooded over me. I can make things so complicated sometimes when the answer is pure and simple. Then I grabbed the camera.
I followed this message of love in my next conversation with the individual I had prayed about. Of course the interactions with this person improved. Later on, when I was feeling down and frustrated about myself, I thought about the rubber band heart. The message was for me also. When I generated loving thoughts toward myself, I immediately began to feel peaceful. The Beatles were right, all you need is love (and open eyes to see answered prayer).
Monday, September 6, 2010
God Moments
As a response to these happenings, I have changed my morning prayer to something like this: God, I can tell you are up to something - How can I help what your doing? How can I get out of the way, so I don't hinder what you are doing? Please us me to serve you today.
This helps me pay better attention to what is going on around me and in my interactions, pulling me out of my own head and my never-ending to-do list. When I am focused on my agenda and tasks, I can blow right by the God-moments that are there for me and for others. I can't sit and wait for them, of course. It's a mental trapeze act for me - pay attention and work; be present and productive.
One day last week, I was in my office late in the afternoon- a time I am not normally there; I was hoping to get some things done when no one else was around. I barely got started when someone stopped by. At first I was a little annoyed because my plan was not working out; however, as we sat and talked I slowly caught on. Deep conversation, prayer and encouragement took place that was a blessing to us both. When this person left, it became even more clear to me why I felt compelled to be at the office at a time outside my normal schedule. It was a God-moment. This week I hope to pay attention to more of them.
Monday, August 30, 2010
I Love NY
I am still reflecting on the healing nature of this summer and marveling at the fact that I feel better and more myself than I have in over 3 years--well before I was diagnosed. I have more energy, I am finally feeling results from regular exercise, I am more content with a deeper sense of inner peace. Some things that used to rattle me, make me mad or defensive no longer have such a grip on me; I am more centered in myself and clear about my opinions, wants and needs; and I feel more emboldened in sharing them when appropriate. It seems that God has worked no less than a miracle in my life.
I remember a week after returning from vacation, I couldn't remember anything, I couldn't track what I was supposed to be doing, I couldn't remember the date or where we were in the month. The next week, I felt like a new person---like God had spent a week re-wiring my brain for a new stage or chapter in my life. It sounds rather corny, but this is what I experienced.
Part of the healing came about in our near-perfect two week vacation. It was one of those magical times as a family where things went well, everyone got along (for the most part!), and we all enjoyed what we were doing. If there was a day that wasn't our personal favorite, there was something the next day to look forward to that kept us going and moving together.
We drove to Manhattan via Detroit (saw friends from the first congregation I served 20 years ago), Niagara Falls (riding the Maid of the Mist was an awesome and favorite experience!), the Baseball Museum and Hall of Fame (we all loved it!), a friends' lamb farm (we held triplet lambs!), and Ridgewood, NJ where Dan grew up (the kids think he had a better childhood than they're having!). We took in all the usual sites in NY with the special treat of getting together with our friends Paul and Eric, and seeing Kelsey Grammar star in Las Cage Aux Folles on Broadway. We spent a couple of days at the Jersey Shore and took in the NJ Six Flags Great America where we got to ride the Kingda Ka- the tallest fastest roller coaster in the world. There's nothing like going 128 mph within 3.5 seconds to shake out whatever ails you. I felt like I was in a cartoon with my cheeks and eyelids flapping in the wind.
This whole vacation experience released us to feel that life is good again; we affirmed that we have much for which to give thanks. We were drawn out of ourselves and looked out at the world with new eyes, seeing opportunities everywhere to celebrate, learn, grow and move forward. We started to get past the rut of letting misery and hardship define us.
I never thought of vacation in this way before. But doing something completely new opens the way for the Spirit to work on us and in us for wholeness and peace - in our children and in us.
Monday, August 23, 2010
A Healing Summer
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Komen Walk
Friday, May 21, 2010
Learning from the Natural World
Friday, May 7, 2010
Here's the post I started last week, but didn't finish until now, due to my son's concussion -
A week ago I attended a conference on the Sacred Art of Hospitality based on the book,Hospitality~the Sacred Art: Discovering the Hidden Spiritual Power of Invitation and Welcome by The Rev. Nanette Sawyer (purchase at: http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=hospitality+the+sacred+art&tag=googhydr-20&index=stripbooks&hvadid=3188467919&ref=pd_sl_6m2c854t6c_b). It really gave us the basis for all of our relationships as well as mission and ministry. Nanette pushes us to see hospitality not in terms of setting a pretty table or hosting dinner parties, although it could very well include these. Hospitality is the quality of one's inner spirit and how this creates an openness and welcome in all our relationships which can lead to the transformation of our self and others.
Transformative spiritual hospitality is rooted in three qualities: receptivity, reverence and generosity that reflect a basic pattern of movement: in-with-out. We can engage in each of these stages with methods of awareness, acceptance and action. A chart helped us:
Inner Spirit: Receptivity Reverence Generosity
Movement: In With Out
Method: Awareness Acceptance Action
(sorry I couldn't figure out how to do the spacing in a chart form--it kept changing once I posted it!)
Receptivity has to do with preparing our inner state to be able to invite others in to our lives, hearts and sometimes, our homes. We explored this spiritual approach in being not only receptive to God’s welcome of us, but also our willingness to be hospitable to ourselves. Like other spiritual disciplines, true hospitality begins with our relationship with God and our ability to care for and love ourselves, so that we might be open to others and able to care for them out of our own spiritual center. The method for this stage is awareness—awareness of the sacred in and around us, awareness of ourselves, awareness of our needs and a willingness for self-care.
Reverence is the state of being with others—honoring and welcoming them. Reverence involves acceptance of others as they are, but it also goes deeper than that. It moves us to see and honor the presence of God in each created being—humans as well as the creation. Being with others in a hospitable and reverent way, means giving up trying to control them, letting go of specific outcomes and not judging them. It also means letting go of the dualism of comparison—that we are better/worse than others or they are better/worse than us. Instead we identify with them, in our common humanity, in the presence of God that exists within each one of us. Rev. Sawyer challenges us to practice this with our families on a daily basis, with neighbors, with strangers and even with enemies who may wish us harm.
Finally, hospitality involves generosity—a flowing out in physical, emotional and spiritual care of others. This involves action of some kind—whether it is regularly inviting people into your home, caring for a sick friend, making intentional conversation, making eye contact and smiling to strangers, practicing non-retaliation in conflict, or making green choices to be hospitable to creation--a crucial part of hospitality is outward action motivated by compassion and openness to new experience. In class we were able to practice spiritual meditations that moved us toward this deeper hospitality.
A great blessing of this conference was that it embodied the topic by its structure! The conference was held on a cruise ship out of
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Concussion or Divine Intervention?
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Transformational Hospitality
Reverence is the state of being with others—honoring and welcoming them. Reverence involves acceptance of others as they are, but it also goes deeper than that. It moves us to see and honor the presence of God in each created being—humans as well as the creation. Being with others in a hospitable and reverent way, means giving up trying to control them, letting go of specific outcomes and not judging them. It also means letting go of the dualism of comparison—that we are better/worse than others or they are better/worse than us. Instead we identify with them, in our common humanity, in the presence of God that exists within each one of us. Rev. Sawyer challenges us to practice this with our families on a daily basis, with neighbors, with strangers and even with enemies who may wish us harm.
Finally, hospitality involves generosity—a flowing out in physical, emotional and spiritual care of others. This involves action of some kind—whether it is regularly inviting people into your home, caring for a sick friend, making intentional conversation, making eye contact and smiling to strangers, practicing non-retaliation in conflict, or making green choices to be hospitable to creation--a crucial part of hospitality is outward action motivated by compassion and openness to new experience. In class we were able to practice spiritual meditations that moved us toward this deeper hospitality.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Finding a Usable Future in our Past
To Tease or Not To Tease
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Resolve
Monday, March 29, 2010
Big Love
Monday, March 22, 2010
Grump Dump 2
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Jesus Made It
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Reclaiming Mardi Gras Spirituality
The last Sunday before Lent we celebrated Mardi Gras in worship. When I pitched this idea to the Worship Committee, they looked at me strangely--perhaps they thought I had suggested we all parade half naked and drunk down the church aisle. While this might improve attendance, I reminded them that Mardi Gras is a church festival and something we can celebrate appropriately and with joy in the sanctuary. I could tell by their faces that they wondered how I would pull this off. Our youth traveled to